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Our digital devices are many things to us: work necessities, conduits of information and entertainment — and sources of major stress. One of the more maddening aspects of owning computers and smartphones is how they generate clutter; step away from the computer to get a snack, and you’ve got 30 new emails by the time you return. Every time you look at your phone, you see apps you haven’t used in ages. When you prepare to take a photo, you wonder how soon your phone will sound the alert that you lack storage space for more pictures.

Digital clutter isn’t just an annoyance: Like physical clutter, it can generate anxiety and distress. Excess digital detritus can also bog down your devices, making them run sluggishly and causing additional frustration.

Amanda Jefferson, a digital decluttering and productivity coach and cohost of the podcast Good Enough-ish, is here to help. Trained in popular Marie Kondo methods for uncluttering physical spaces, she has some simple suggestions for bringing order — and even joy — to your jam-packed digital world.

 

Stress Sources

You’re overwhelmed. The clutter can seem so vast that you feel defeated before you begin. “It never seems to end,” says Jefferson. “As soon as you feel like you’re caught up with email, for example, it just starts coming again. When you’re going to declutter a basement, there’s a finite number of items. But digital clutter is a constant barrage, a black hole.”

You don’t know where to start. Given this overwhelm, it’s natural to have no idea what to prioritize. There’s the email inundation, the memory-eating apps, all the photos — and those are just the most obvious offenders.

You don’t know how to proceed once you’ve begun. Once you’ve started the decluttering process, there are other questions: Should you declutter every digital space, from music to photos to documents to apps? Are there areas of clutter you don’t even know about? And how much clutter is too much?

You worry about making the wrong decisions. What if you wind up needing something you jettison in your decluttering efforts?

You use the cloud as a procrastination tool. Jefferson calls the cloud “a never-ending basement, an almost-infinite storage unit that costs 99 cents a month.” If you have iCloud, Google Drive, or a similar service, it can be too easy to conclude that addressing the clutter is not a priority.

You lack an organizational strategy. Getting rid of unnecessary clutter is one thing; putting what you retain in order is quite another. How will you set things up to keep chaos at bay? 

You worry that you won’t be able to keep up the clutter-clearing habit. It can be dispiriting to realize that decluttering isn’t a one-and-done; it needs to be an ongoing task, one that may feel too daunting.

You don’t know how technology can help you. “We walk around with these expensive supercomputers in our hands and our bags,” says Jefferson, “and so many of us don’t know very much about what they can do, including help us declutter by providing options and information.”

 

Success Strategies

1) Do a decluttering “brain dump.”

This is when you sit down with a pen and paper and write down the issues you have with digital clutter, Jefferson says. “You need to clear out your emails, you need to figure out your passwords, whatever. Just list it all out and sketch out the priorities.”

2) Assess the reality of the situation.

“Is your Gmail yelling at you that you’re running out of storage? Does your phone keep saying you can’t take any more photos because you have to delete some?” she asks. Look into what’s behind those prompts to see what really needs your attention.

3) Consider your values.

A look at your digital storage can reveal whether it aligns with your needs and values. Do you really listen to music enough to justify all the songs you’ve saved?

In Marie Kondo style, Jefferson recommends asking yourself whether what you are keeping is giving you joy or just represents an obligation. “You should read that article. You should keep getting that worthy newsletter. But what newsletters do you look forward to and love reading? They’re the keepers.” 

4) Create a specific plan.

Jefferson suggests choosing a maximum of 10 things that are top priority, the things that are causing you the most stress. “These are the things you’ll tackle first,” she says. “Decide the specific action that you’ll take on that priority. For example, instead of ‘Organize all our photos,’ write down ‘Get a photo-organizing app on my phone.’ Instead of ‘Declutter my email,’ write ‘Make a folder for each kid’s school emails.’ Then look at your schedule for the next two weeks and decide exactly when you’ll take each specific step. Block out that time and keep that commitment. Repeat until you’re ready to move on to the next set of priorities.”  

5) Proceed patiently.

“I like the old adage ‘How do you eat an elephant? A little at a time,’” she says. “It’s all about dividing, splitting decluttering up into bite-sized pieces.”

6) Use the cloud wisely.

Although Jefferson notes that the cloud or other external storage source can be “a never-ending basement,” it’s also your best means of ensuring you won’t lose what is, or may be, valuable. “You can save everything [worthwhile] — from your most important papers, like tax returns and leases, to personal writings and recipes — to a cloud service. Just be sure to create clearly labeled folders so that you can find things easily when you want to retrieve them.”

7) Take advantage of organizational tools and resources that your devices offer.

Our devices themselves can help with decluttering. “For example, there’s a way in your email to click a whole bunch of promotional messages all at once and mark them to be deleted on arrival so you don’t have to go through the trouble of unsubscribing from them,” Jefferson says. Using a function to sort emails by size and subject can make organization and decluttering easier.

You can also set up an auto-delete function to get rid of old messages and hide phone apps that you don’t use regularly. “Digital decluttering is about less; it’s about fewer emails and files and photos, but it’s also about becoming really savvy in learning how to do things,” she adds.

The point is to learn about these resources, with the help of a professional like Jefferson or on your own with Google. “Google ‘How do I set up an auto-delete for X email system?’ Talk to Google as if you’re asking a human — be clear in your questions.”

8) Set a schedule and use “body doubling” to help you declutter regularly.

“There are people who say, ‘I’m going to work out,’ and then they go into their living room and work out,” says Jefferson. “I’m the type of person who needs to go to a class or have some sort of appointment, or I’m not showing up.”

Body-doubling — a productivity technique that involves working on a project or task in the presence of another person — can make it easier to declutter on a regular basis, she points out. The practice is often used by people with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder to help increase motivation and focus.

“I actually founded a club called the Get It Done Club. It’s an online coworking group where we set a timer for 50 minutes and everybody works on whatever they need to work on — like unsubscribing from emails.”

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5 Tips to Be More Mindful With Your Tech https://experiencelife.lifetime.life/article/5-tips-to-be-more-mindful-with-your-tech/ https://experiencelife.lifetime.life/article/5-tips-to-be-more-mindful-with-your-tech/#view_comments Mon, 27 Jan 2025 14:01:27 +0000 https://experiencelife.lifetime.life/?post_type=article&p=109201 Use these tips and strategies to make your tech work for you.

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Smartphones and com­puters are major sources of distraction, but they are indispensable to most of us — and they’re not going away anytime soon. So how can we use technology for good in our own lives?

Lidia Zylowska, MD, an associate professor at the University of Minnesota Medical School’s Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences and author of The Mindfulness Prescription for Adult ADHD, suggests paying attention to your attention — and observing how your devices pull or fragment it. Then create rules for yourself, such as putting in a certain amount of uninterrupted work time first or keeping the phone face-down and muted when meeting with others. (Get more advice on mindful tech use at “Use Technology More Mindfully With “Contemplative Computing.”)

“Of course, devices have an addictive quality, so managing the urge to reach for them is also an important skill,” Zylowska says. “Mindfulness practice is about noticing what is happening to us and in us in the moment, and having an opportunity to make a different choice. It is about being aware in the ­moment, not lost in it.”

Mindful Tech Tips:

When you pick up your phone, use that impulse as a cue into mindfulness.

  1. Create a gatha — from Sanskrit, meaning “song” or “verse” — for sitting down at your ­computer, such as, “My screen lights up. I partner with my computer to do my best work.”
  2. Make your computer password an inspiring word or phrase that reminds you to stay present.
  3. Follow mindful social media accounts so the algorithm drives more uplifting moments to your feed.
  4. Use apps, like Chill, to provide mindfulness reminders.

Seeking More Mindful Moments?

Practice awareness with the ideas at “4 Tips for Finding Mindfulness During Mindless Moments,” from which this article was excerpted.

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Should Social Media Carry Warning Labels? https://experiencelife.lifetime.life/article/should-social-media-carry-warning-labels/ https://experiencelife.lifetime.life/article/should-social-media-carry-warning-labels/#view_comments Wed, 18 Dec 2024 13:00:07 +0000 https://experiencelife.lifetime.life/?post_type=article&p=105839 Yes, according to U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy, who calls for tobacco-style warnings on social media platforms.

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Social media is an integral part of many adolescents’ lives today. In response to concerns from parents, educators, and healthcare professionals, U.S. Surgeon General Vivek ­Murthy, MD, MBA, is advocating for warning labels on social media ­platforms. In a mid-2024 guest ­essay in The New York Times, Murthy emphasizes that social media use significantly contributes to the mental health crisis among young people.

“Adolescents who spend more than three hours a day on social ­media face double the risk of anxiety and depression symptoms, and the average daily use in this age group, as of the summer of 2023, was 4.8 hours,” Murthy writes. “Additionally, nearly half of adolescents report that social media makes them feel worse about their bodies.”

More than 90 percent of American teens report using at least one social media platform, with some reporting that they use YouTube and TikTok almost constantly, according to recent surveys. While these platforms offer opportunities for social interaction and self-expression, they also pose significant risks to mental and emo­tional well-being.

Psychologist Jean Twenge, PhD, has long expressed concerns about the impact of screen time on youth. She outlines the issue in her book iGen: Why Today’s Super-Connected Kids Are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy — and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood — and What That Means for the Rest of Us. Twenge’s research suggests a direct correlation between the rise in social media use and a decline in mental health among adolescents.

Parents often struggle with feelings of helplessness and isolation when contending with the toxic nature and hidden dangers of social media.

A recent study, published in Pediatric Research, found that adolescents take cues for social media usage from adults in their lives. High parental screen use and family mealtime screen use were associated with more overall problematic screen use among adolescents.

It is important that parents act as role models for their children,” says study lead author Jason Nagata, MD. “Limiting screen use is a challenge for adults and children alike given notifications, addictive algorithms, and integration with communication and work. I do think it is important for parents to try to practice what they preach. For instance, if parents make a family rule not to use screens at mealtime, they should try to follow the rules also.”

A 2022 article in American Economic Review reports that 31 percent of the time people spend on social media is due to self-control problems; a study published in the journal ­CyberPsychology & Behavior compares addictive internet use with gambling disorder, the only formally diagnosable behavioral addiction.

Murthy explains that a surgeon general’s warning label “would regularly remind parents and adolescents that social media has not been proven safe.”

In his Times essay, Murthy argues that legislation should protect young people from various online dangers. He advocates for laws to shield children from online harassment, abuse, and exploitation, and from exposure to extreme violence and sexual content.

4 Tips to Help Kids Cope With the Effects of Social Media Use and Sleep Better

Social media use can disrupt teens’ sleep patterns, two recent studies find, as many teenagers stay up late to scroll through their feeds. This lack of sleep may partly contribute to the negative effect that excessive screen time has on academic performance and overall physical health.

A study published in the journal Sleep Health in 2023 analyzed data on bedtime screen-use behaviors and sleep outcomes from 10,280 adolescents aged 10 to 14. The following tips are based on the study’s findings.

  1. Keep screens outside the bedroom. A TV set or internet-connected device in the bedroom is associated with a higher risk of struggling to fall or stay asleep.
  2. Turn off the ringer and notifications. Leaving the phone ringer on rather than off is associated with greater overall sleep disturbance.
  3. Don’t use social media or other electronic devices before going to sleep. Using social media, chatting on the internet, playing video games, browsing the internet, and watching movies, videos, or TV shows before sleeping were associated with sleep disturbances.
  4. If you wake up during the night, don’t use your phone or engage with social media. This habit is associated with a higher risk of sleep troubles.

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What to Do When the News Stresses You Out https://experiencelife.lifetime.life/article/what-to-do-when-the-news-stresses-you-out/ https://experiencelife.lifetime.life/article/what-to-do-when-the-news-stresses-you-out/#view_comments Wed, 11 Sep 2024 13:01:55 +0000 https://experiencelife.lifetime.life/?post_type=article&p=101367 Experiencing headline anxiety? Protect your mental health with these calming tips.

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You probably know the feeling: You read or listen to breaking news on your TV, radio, phone, or laptop, and you are immediately struck with an anxious, palm-moistening sensation. “Headline anxiety” may not be a diagnosable disorder, but the stress you might experience from hearing the news is tangible.

“Feeling overwhelmed by world news and various events” is a real issue, says clinical psychologist Kiki Fehling, PhD. “It can feel like intense anxiety, agitation, anger, depression, or hopelessness.”

Even if you recognize the problem, it can be challenging to distance yourself from the source of your anxiety. These days, the news is constant and ubiquitous: the scrolling banners on 24-hour channels that create urgency even when the sound is off; the social-media feeds that shoot you the same story over and over again.

The COVID era hasn’t helped matters. A recent study found an association between media exposure and emotional distress during 2020. It’s no wonder that regularly hearing about the effects of a deadly virus — as well as the political and social justice turmoil that accompanied the pandemic’s early days — would trigger a stress response in many of us.

“A trigger is any word, person, event, or experience that touches off an immediate emotional reaction,” explains psychotherapist David Richo, PhD. “It’s like being startled by a noise: The noise is the trigger; the startle is the response.”

And because your body has gone into fight-or-flight mode, your reaction can often be more extreme or last longer than the event itself. (For more on dealing with emotional triggers, see “13 Strategies to Deal With Your Emotional Triggers.”)

Finding yourself lost in the maelstrom of a stressful news cycle can certainly make you feel powerless, but you have more agency than you may think. You can still be an informed citizen without feeling overwhelmed by headlines or getting triggered each time you catch a glimpse of a news broadcast. Try these protective steps to help safeguard your mental health.

Set Boundaries With Your Tech

Imagine you’re out for a walk on a sunny afternoon and you suddenly start getting alerts on your phone that stop you in your tracks. Something scary is happening, whether near or far, and now you’re anxious and upset — when you’d gone for a walk in search of serenity.

That’s why Jacqueline Toner, PhD, author of What to Do When the News Scares You, recommends turning off all push notifications on your devices. “Anything that sends you a notification is a problem because you lose control of the input,” she explains.

Those Facebook, Instagram, and X (formerly known as Twitter) likes are designed to elicit the same ­response as a slot machine — little hits of dopamine that come at unexpected times. That’s why it’s normal to crave them, and why it can be so hard to turn them off. But controlling when you engage with social media is worth the effort.

You can also delete apps from your phone and view sites on a computer only at certain times. Or try setting your phone screen to black and white, which makes it less visually appealing.

Can’t quit scrolling through the news at bedtime? Keep an alarm clock rather than your phone in the bedroom. (For more tips on breaking your cellphone habit, see “18 Ways to Break Your Cellphone Habit.”)

If you’re experiencing regular headline anxiety, Fehling also recommends unsubscribing from news-related email lists, if only temporarily. “Maybe even unplug from tech completely if you have that capability and option,” she suggests.

Be Mindful of News Sources

A 2020 Pew Research Center study found that eight in 10 U.S. adults get their news from a digital device “often or sometimes,” and 53 percent get their news from social media “often or sometimes,” with Facebook topping the list.

That’s concerning, Toner explains, because of how easy it is to fall into echo chambers on social media, where the same news and opinions are repeated ad nauseam. Be a good social media citizen by avoiding the temptation to spread the news.

“As soon as you hear something, resist the urge to run and share it with somebody else,” she advises. When you immediately share, you might add to their stress and make it harder for them to take in news on their own terms.

“As soon as you hear something, resist the urge to run and share it with somebody else,” she advises. When you immediately share, you might add to their stress and make it harder for them to take in news on their own terms.

It’s also important to choose your news sources wisely, Toner adds. If, for example, you tune in to a newscast with multiple fast-moving chyrons (those scrolling banners on the bottom third of the screen), “you’re going to feel more stressed than if you read a newspaper or watch public television or listen to public radio, where there’s not so much excitement built in.”

Also make sure your sources are trustworthy. Misinformation can easily intensify headline stress because it often leads with catastrophe in order to trigger anxiety, anger, or other intense emotions.

That’s by design: Misinformation plays on our feelings to circumvent our thinking, often to great effect. Studies have found that negative headlines improve click-through rates. (For more advice on spotting misinformation on social media, see “7 Ways to Spot Misinformation on Social Media.”)

Take Action

If you find yourself feeling consis­tently anxious about a particular headline or world event, consider putting that anxiety into action. “The body feels emotions to try to motivate us to do things,” says Fehling. “There is something in the world that we don’t like and we wish were different; our bodies are telling us that.”

Volunteering or contributing resources to others can help us cope with stress and other negative emotions. It gets us out of our own heads and makes us feel good.

“Humans inherently are empathetic beings,” Fehling notes. “But the other really effective part of volunteering and contributing is that you’re using some of the emotions that you’re feeling from headline stress to take action.”

“[The] other really effective part of volunteering and contributing is that you’re using some of the emotions that you’re feeling from headline stress to take action.”

If you’re not sure where to begin, start with a piece of paper. In a 2022 TED Talk, Ayana Elizabeth ­Johnson, PhD, a marine biologist, writer, and climate-policy expert, suggests drawing a Venn diagram to map these questions: What are your skills? What is the work that needs doing? What brings you joy?

Where your answers intersect is where you should put your effort. Johnson’s talk is about climate change specific­ally, but her method can apply to any current crisis.

Widen the Scope of Your Attention

Meditation, breathwork, yoga, and other mindfulness practices are proven to help reduce stress. You can try those methods and others to soothe headline anxiety and regulate your emotions, Toner says.

“The point is to also be able to focus on the other parts of your life,” she explains, “and not be swept up in all the stimuli to stress about.” (For more methods for finding calm in a frantic world, see “24 Ways to Find Calm in a Frantic World.”)

If you’re lost in a sea of angry social media comments about the state of the world, you’re not noticing the people doing good work to create more ­humane systems and lasting change.

Toner encourages people to pay more attention to the rest of the world around them. If you’re taking a walk in nature while listening to the news or looking at your phone to see who commented on one of your ­social media posts, she says, you’re not listening to the birds or the stream flowing nearby.

If you’re lost in a sea of angry social media comments about the state of the world, you’re not noticing the people doing good work to create more ­humane systems and lasting change.

“It’s easy to get hooked by what’s frightening,” she says. “But then we tend to overlook the quiet, but positive, everyday things.”

 Renewal

For more inspiration and strategies to overcome life’s challenges, please visit our Renewal department.

This article originally appeared as “When the News Is Too Much” in the September/October 2024 issue of Experience Life.

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Discover True Fun (Hint: No Screens Are Involved) https://experiencelife.lifetime.life/article/discover-true-fun-hint-no-screens-are-involved/ Mon, 05 Aug 2024 12:00:31 +0000 https://experiencelife.lifetime.life/?post_type=article&p=98773 Escape digital distractions to reconnect with what really matters — real fun.

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Phone scrolling, binge watching, and needless online shop­ping are all examples of what Catherine Price, author of The Power of Fun, calls fake fun. These “fun impostors” can be tricky, because we associate them with relaxation, and we may very well lose track of time while we’re doing them. But fake fun is really just spacing out.

That’s fine if it’s what you mean to do, Price says, but spacing out won’t satisfy your soul the way true fun will. Fake fun is likely to leave you drained and dull, while true fun makes you feel energized and renewed.

a person plays a guitarWe have skillful engineers to thank for how much of our time gets consumed by fake fun. Social media apps, including TikTok, YouTube, and Instagram, are designed to hold our attention. Scrolling has no automatic off-ramp. Likes and other notifications give us quick dopamine hits, convincing us that whatever is on the screen is more reward­ing than what’s in the room.

All of this amounts to a state of distraction, which goes hand in hand with disconnection. MIT professor Sherry Turkle, author of Reclaiming Conversation, has pointed out how leaving a cellphone out on a table during a meal is likely to prevent the conversation from going too deep — when we know we can be interrupted at any moment, we stick to shallower topics.

“True fun and distraction are like oil and water,” Price adds.

She shares plenty of strategies for reclaiming your attention in a previous book, How to Break Up With Your Phone, such as putting a rubber band around your phone to make it more noticeable when you pick it up. You can also remove time-sucking apps from the home screen.

Overall, anything you can do to remain present — including noticing when you grab your phone to distract yourself — can help you stay in control of your own attention.

(For more ideas on how to break free from tech, visit “How to Break Free of Tech Addiction.”)

When was the last time you cut loose and
had true fun — for real?

For many of us, it’s been far too long. Learn why fun is so good for your health and how to find your way back to whatever brings you joy at “How Making Time for Fun Can Recharge Your Life!,” from which this article was excerpted.

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The Do’s and Don’ts of Following “Fitfluencers” https://experiencelife.lifetime.life/article/the-dos-and-donts-of-following-fitfluencers/ https://experiencelife.lifetime.life/article/the-dos-and-donts-of-following-fitfluencers/#view_comments Fri, 22 Dec 2023 13:00:28 +0000 https://experiencelife.lifetime.life/?post_type=article&p=87065 Want #fitspo you can trust? Experts offer advice on engaging mindfully with fitness- themed social media content.

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Fitness advice looms large on social media, but the saturation isn’t synonymous with credibility or service. Quite the opposite: Several recent studies have found that, far from being helpful, much online fitness-­related content does more harm than good. (Learn more at “The Ugly Side of #Fitspo.”)

This is grim news for health-minded folks who seek out information and inspiration on social media. It’s also disconcerting even if you aren’t specifically looking for fitness content. The suggestive algorithms of various platforms make it likely that many users are engaging with fitness content from influencers who may lack expertise or credentials — but do have a financial interest in selling products, like fitness gear, outfits, and supplements.

So, what’s a modern exercise aficionado to do? While deleting apps is one option, going cold turkey isn’t the only way forward. Our experts offer their top dos and don’ts for engaging mindfully with fitfluencer content.

Do

Take an Inventory

As a first step, Jessi Kneeland, an author, speaker, and body-image coach, advises taking careful stock of the accounts you already follow and interrogating how that content makes you feel. If a brand or influencer sends you down a comparison spiral or makes you feel insecure, Kneeland, who uses the pronouns they/them, suggests you remove that content from your feed without remorse.

“A lot of people, especially women, often feel guilty or invalidate themselves for being triggered by a person online,” they say. “But if it impacts you, that’s enough of a reason to unfollow or mute someone, whether you know the person or not.”

Don’t

Mistake Thin for Inspiration

Be wary of accounts that promote specific and unrealistic body ideals. Studies have shown that exposure to images and messaging that urge fat loss and thinness can have an adverse effect on body satisfaction, mood, and self-perceived sexual attractiveness. This environment can also foster disordered eating.

You can expand your digital sphere of influence by searching hashtags like #healthateverysize, #normalizenormalbodies, and #joyfulmovement, says Kneeland. But they note that this isn’t a sure-fire way to avoid thinspiration; some creators will co-opt ­unrelated hashtags to boost their content.

Do

Look for Expertise

Too often, “we end up hearing the loudest voice in the room, which isn’t always the best perspective to follow,” says Andrew Moran, DPT, a physical therapist who specializes in working with endurance athletes. To help you separate the quality content from the clickbait, Moran recommends some healthy skepticism of the content creators who fill your feed.

Ask yourself:

  • What fitness credentials and training background does this influencer have?
  • Is the advice backed by science, or is it purely anecdotal?
  • Does the account feature heavily edited, filtered, or otherwise doctored images?
  • Is the person or brand pushing a one-size-fits-all solution to a problem or a single definition of health or fitness?
  • Are they more focused on selling products than sharing information?

These questions don’t necessarily have right or wrong answers — selling a product, for instance, doesn’t automatically equate to low credibility — but taking the time to answer them for each account you follow can alert you to red flags that may otherwise go unnoticed.

Don’t

Overcommit Yourself

It’s easy to be lured to the profiles of personal trainers or professional athletes sharing snippets of their routines and to be tempted to take their methods for a test drive. But before you commit to hourslong sweat sessions or ­completely changing your approach to nutrition, athletic counselor Eiron Sanchez, MSW, recommends asking yourself: How much change can I withstand now?

What works for one individual might not work for the masses,” says Sanchez, a mental health and mental performance coach who works primarily with collegiate and professional athletes. “The athlete or fitness account you’re following might have been training for 10, 15, or 20 years, depending on their level. Ultimately, you might want to see yourself in a similar position, but the key is determining the first step.”

Meet yourself where you are right now and consider your current fitness, energy, and overall stress levels to determine next steps. Make one or two changes at a time for a routine you can sustain.

Do

Challenge Your Biases

Just because a fitfluencer might have what conventional standards would deem a fit body doesn’t necessarily mean their advice is best. Seek out different viewpoints by filling your feed with marginalized bodies and various identities within those body types.

For example, if you’re an able-bodied marathoner, consider following runners with disabled bodies. If you’re a thin, cisgender yoga practitioner, seek out instructors who are fat and queer. Engage with accounts that expand the culturally defined standards of health and fitness.

By diversifying the body types you follow, you might also discover a need to confront your mispercep­tions about what exercise can and should look like. “Begin to see these people through the lens of compassion and empathy,” Kneeland says. As we ­humanize people and their lifestyles, we cultivate broader social acceptance.

Don’t

Forget Your Self-­Directed Prejudices

Challenging your biases includes analyzing those you’ve internalized against yourself. Follow fitfluencers whose bodies look like yours, advises ­Kneeland. ­Expose yourself to people who possess — and even celebrate — your biggest insecurities. By normalizing those areas, you can reprogram prior beliefs about what your body looks like and how it functions.

Do

Remember That You’re In Control

Navigating a social media account does not have to be a passive experience. Though Instagram’s algorithm is powerful, users can have some control over their feeds. Be intentional about hitting the “Follow” button — research the content creator’s bio and affiliations before you do — and don’t feel guilty about unfollowing or muting any account that doesn’t satisfy your needs.

To hide a suggested post, click the three dots above that post and click “Not Interested.” You can also hide some ad content: Click your profile picture, navigate to Settings, and find the Accounts Center. Go to Ad preferences, then Ad topics, and use the search bar to add a “See less” filter to topics you’d rather not see.

None of these stopgaps is perfect — if you need to break up with an app for your physical or mental health, you can delete it. Remem­­ber, fitness advice, inspiration, and account­ability exist beyond the confines of our smartphones. (For tips on finding and working with a trainer, visit “Why Using a Personal Trainer Can Help You Reach Your Fitness Goals.”)

Don’t

Forget Your Why

Social media can siphon your energy if you’re not a conscious player in that environment. And if fitspiration is what you’re after, it does little good to close the apps feeling too exhausted and unmotivated to pursue your fitness goals.

One way to stay present online and combat comparison fatigue is to use the initialism WWW. Coined by journalist Catherine Price, author of How to Break Up With Your Phone, it stands for: “What for? Why now? and What else?” When you opened Instagram, what were you looking for? Why are you scrolling right now? What else could you be doing?

If you’re going to engage with fitfluencer content, doing so with your purpose in mind can help save your sanity. (For guidance on articulating your why and shifting your fitness mindset, check out “Why Your Fitness Mindset Matters.”)

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It can be difficult to accurately convey an emotional tone in an email, which makes it easy for misunderstandings to happen. All the previous suggestions can help you become more skillful with email, from communicating positive sentiments to practicing body awareness. You might also practice resisting the urge to “fire off” emails in rapid succession.

“When you type an email, before you send it, sit back, take three deep breaths while not thinking about the email, then return to the email and reread it — not so much for the data but for the emotional effect it will have on the reader,” says Google visionary Chade-Meng Tan. “Imagine being that reader and try to look at the impact it might have. Then change it accordingly and send it.”

While it might seem time consuming to write an email this way, it is far easier than trying to retrieve a regrettable message.

Exercise: Mindful Email

Before sending an important email to the intended recipient, send it to yourself first. When you read it as the recipient, you’ll take in the tone, implications, and omissions that you might otherwise miss when you’re focused on composition. This will also give you the time you may need to reassess your own emotional state and revise the message (if necessary) before sending it off.

Stealth Meditation

We all receive upsetting emails. Resolve to wait at least two hours to respond to anything that makes your heart race.

Go Deeper

Workplace communication challenges can undermine our equanimity, sap our satisfaction, and hurt our success. A renowned mindfulness teacher shows us how to build stronger, more successful relationships — with our colleagues and ourselves. Learn more at “7 Workplace Communication Challenges and How to Overcome Them,” from which this article was excerpted.

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1) Start the Conversation.

Terri Griffith, PsyD, tells parents to invite children to open up about what they’re seeing online without judging their choices; kids are likely to shut down emotionally if they are shamed or forced off social media without a conversation.

“It’s about creating space for communication and education,” says Charlotte Markey, PhD. And communication must happen before you can set any effective boundaries.

2) Model Healthy Behavior.

Be willing to examine your own habits and consider what your kids are absorbing from your behavior, Griffith advises. Ask yourself if you are consuming lots of weight-loss advice or if you’re hyperfocused on diet.

“If so, being a better example for your children to model can be just as important as what you say to them,” she says.

3) Watch Your Language.

Most of us could stand to retool our language when discussing food and diet. “We need to stop saying, ‘This food is healthy and this food is not healthy,’” says Pamela Ramos, MD.

Instead, focus on moderation and balance, and use a calm tone and neutral language to talk about food choices. Fruit juice isn’t necessarily bad, for example, but ­Ramos argues that drinking 10 juice ­boxes in a row won’t make you feel good.

4) Teach Skepticism Early.

Talking with your kids about social media sooner rather than later is crucial, says Markey. When your child starts using their first phone or iPad, “it’s the optimal time to sit down with them and use ­social media while you’re supervising them and having a conversation,” she advises. “Ask your kids, ‘Do you think that’s good advice?’ or ‘Doesn’t that look like it’s fake?’ Model questioning from the get-go so they learn to approach ­social media with skepticism, and so they can see that while this may be entertaining, it might not be real or reliable.”

This was excerpted from “How Social Media Usage Can Influence Your Diet” which was published in Experience Life.

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Explore the steps to becoming a digital minimalist:

1) Define Your Tech Rules
2) Take a 30-Day Tech Break
3) Reintroduce Meaningful Tech

Smartphones, wireless internet, digital platforms that connect billions of people — these are triumphant innovations. Few people think we’d be better off retreating to an earlier technological age.

Still, many are also tired of feeling like prisoners to their devices.

Our relationship with digital tools is complicated by the fact that they mix harm with benefits. One can simultaneously cherish the ability to discover inspiring photos on Instagram and fret about the app’s capacity to invade the evening hours that were once spent reading or talking with friends. These contradictions create a jumbled emotional landscape.

The most common response to such complexities is to attempt modest hacks. Perhaps if you observe a digital Sabbath, keep your phone away from your bed at night, or turn off notifications and resolve to be more mindful, you can keep all the good things that attracted you to these technologies in the first place while minimizing their worst impacts.

I understand the appeal of this moderate approach. It relieves the need to make hard decisions about your digital life; you don’t have to quit anything, miss out on any benefits, or suffer any serious inconveniences. Nor do you have to explain your digital absence to friends who may find it alarming.

Yet it’s clear to those who have attempted these minor corrections that willpower and vague resolutions are often not enough to stop these new technologies from invading our cognitive landscapes. The addictiveness of their design and the cultural pressures supporting them are too strong for an ad hoc method to succeed.

As a professor of computer science who has given a great deal of thought to these issues — and written several books about them — I believe what we all need instead is a philosophy of technology use, rooted in our deep values.

There are many philosophies that might satisfy these goals, but one stands out. I call it digital minimalism, and it applies the belief that less can be more. The key to thriving, digital minimalists have learned, is to spend much less time using tech.

Digital Minimalism in Action

Meet Tyler. He once embraced the standard social-media services for the standard reasons: to help his career, keep connected, and provide entertainment. But he later found that his compulsive use of these tools offered minor benefits at best, and he saw that monitoring social media was not the best way to use tech to serve his goals. So, he quit all social media to pursue more direct ways to connect with others.

A year later, Tyler was involved in meaningful volunteer work, exercising regularly, and reading three to four books a month. He was also learning to play the ukulele and feeling much closer to his family.

With digital minimalism, one works backward from their most deeply held values when deciding how to live their life.

With his phone no longer glued to his hand, his increased focus also earned him a promotion at his job.

Tyler is quick to admit that he can’t completely attribute all these things to his specific decision to quit social media. His choice, however, was about more than a tweak to his digital habits: It was a symbolic ­gesture that reinforced his new commitment to a minimalist philosophy.

With digital minimalism, one works backward from their most deeply held values when deciding how to live their life. This is the essence of this approach — one you can embrace, too.

The Digital Declutter Plan

I believe aggressive action is necessary to transform your relationship with technology and reclaim your time and attention. My suggested method is the 30-day digital declutter (plus time for preparation and reintroduction before and after). The declutter acts as a jarring reset: You come into the process a frazzled maximalist and leave an intentional minimalist. This is how it works.

Step 1) Define Your Tech Rules

During your 30-day declutter, the plan is for you to take a break from “optional technologies.” The first step, therefore, is to define which technologies are optional for you.

When I say “technologies,” I’m not talking about your microwave, radio, or electric toothbrush. I’m referring to the class of things that may be considered new technologies — apps, websites, and related digital tools delivered through a computer screen or mobile phone — and are meant to entertain, inform, or connect. Text messaging, Instagram, and Reddit are examples of things you’ll evaluate when preparing for a digital declutter.

Start by identifying which technologies are most relevant for you, then decide which of them are optional enough that you can take a 30-day break from them.

Start by identifying which technologies are most relevant for you, then decide which of them are optional enough that you can take a 30-day break from them. My general guideline: Consider a technology optional unless its temporary removal would harm or significantly disrupt the daily operation of your professional or personal life.

If you stop checking your work email, for example, this will harm your career, so you can’t use this exercise as an excuse to shut down your inbox for a month. If your job occasionally requires you to monitor social media, or your daughter uses text messaging to let you know when she’s ready to be picked up from soccer, or your relationship with a spouse overseas depends on daily connections through FaceTime, then these would not be ­considered optional — but only when the technology is used for these specific purposes.

For borderline cases, I recommend developing some operating procedures. These will help you specify exactly how and when you will use a particular technology, allowing you to maintain some critical uses without having to default to unrestricted access. You could decide, for example, that you will text only with your daughter, and only when she is at soccer.

Keep in mind that just because something is convenient doesn’t mean it’s critical. A Facebook group that announces social events might be convenient, but choosing not to receive those messages won’t cause any critical damage to your social life in 30 days, and it might expose you to interesting alternative uses for your time.

Such inconveniences might even prove useful. Losing light contact with certain people can help clarify which relationships were real in the first place and strengthen your relationships with those who remain.

Key points:

  • The digital declutter focuses primarily on apps, sites, and digital tools. According to participants in the original digital-declutter challenge that I hosted, video games and streaming video could be in this category, too.
  • This will be a 30-day break from those technologies you determine are optional. In some cases, you’ll abstain altogether; in others, you may specify a set of operating procedures that dictate exactly how and when you’ll use the technology.
  • Write down your list of banned technologies and relevant operating procedures. Put it somewhere you’ll see it every day. Clarity in what you’re allowed and not allowed to do during the declutter will prove key to its success.

Step 2) Take a 30-Day Tech Break

Now it’s time to make the break. You’re likely to find these days without optional tech challenging at first. Your mind has developed certain expectations about distractions and entertainment. Disrupting those expectations can feel unpleasant, like a detox.

Yet the detox experience is important; it will help you make smarter decisions about reintroducing some optional technologies when the break ends. Without the clarity that detox provides, the addictive pull of the technologies would bias your decisions.

For example, if you were to decide to reform your relationship with Instagram right this minute, your decision about what role it should play in your life would likely be much weaker than if you’d spent 30 days without it before choosing how to use it more deliberately.

It’s a mistake to think of a digital declutter as only a detox experience. The goal here is not simply to give yourself a break from tech, but to spark a permanent transformation of your digital life.

Still, it’s a mistake to think of a digital declutter as only a detox experience. The goal here is not simply to give yourself a break from tech, but to spark a permanent transformation of your digital life.

To achieve real transformation, you must also spend this period rediscovering what’s important to you in your analog life. You’re more likely to successfully reduce the role of your digital tools if you cultivate high-quality alternatives to their easy distractions.

Many people find that their compulsive phone use covers a void created by the lack of a well-developed leisure life, for example. But reducing phone use without also filling the void with enjoyable things can feel unpleasantly stale, and that will undermine any transition to digital minimalism.

Here’s the good news: Participants in the declutter experiment found it easier than they had expected to reconnect to the activities they’d enjoyed before they were subverted by their screens.

Unaiza is a graduate student who used to spend her evenings browsing Reddit. During her declutter, she redirected this time toward reading books she borrowed from the library. “I finished eight and a half books that month,” she told me. “I could never have thought about doing that before.”

An insurance agent named Melissa finished “only” three books during her 30 days, but she also organized her wardrobe, set up dinners with friends, and scheduled more face-to-face conversations with her brother.

Kushboo finished five books during his declutter — the first he’d voluntarily read in three years. Caleb’s search for analog activities led him to start journaling before bed each night. He also started listening to records on a record player, from beginning to end, with no earbuds in his ears or skip buttons to tap when antsy — which turned out to be a much richer experience than his normal habit of firing up Spotify and seeking out the perfect track.

Key points:

  • The first week or two, you’ll probably find yourself fighting urges to check your optional technologies. This struggle will pass, though, and it will help you make better decisions at the end of the declutter.
  • The goal is not simply to enjoy time away from technologies; it’s to explore higher-quality pursuits to fill the time the technologies currently take up. This period should be one of vigorous activity and experimentation.
  • Aim to arrive at the end of the declutter having discovered the activities that generate real satisfaction, and feeling enabled to confidently craft a better life — one where technology serves a supporting role for more meaningful ends.

Step 3) Reintroduce Meaningful Tech

After your 30-day break comes the final step: reintroduction. This step is more demanding than you might think.

The goal is to start from a blank slate created by the 30-day declutter and let back into your life only those technologies that pass your strict minimalist standards. The care you take here will determine whether this process sparks lasting change.

For each technology, ask yourself some screening questions. The first:

Does this directly support something I really value? This is the most important factor for deciding whether you should let it back into your life.

The fact that a tool may offer some value is irrelevant — the digital minimalist deploys technology to serve their specific values and is happy to miss out on everything else. For example, you may learn that browsing Twitter doesn’t provide value, but following your cousin’s baby photos on Instagram does support the value you place on family.

If a technology passes this first question, it must now face a more difficult standard:

Is this technology the best way to support this value?

We often justify technologies that tyrannize our time and attention with some tangential connection to something we care about. Consider, for example, following your cousin on Instagram. Although a follow might initially be justified by your deep value of family, the next question asks if Instagram is the best way to support this value. Probably not. Something as simple as a monthly phone call with this cousin may be much better for your bond.

If a technology makes it through both screening questions, there’s one more to ask:

How will I now use this technology to maximize its value and minimize its harms?

Many attention-economy companies want you to think about their services in a binary way: Either you use them or you don’t. This allows them to entice you into their ecosystem with some feature you find important; then, once you’re a user, they deploy attention engineering to overwhelm you with options, trying to keep you engaging with their service well beyond your original purpose.

Digital minimalists avoid this trap by maintaining standard operating procedures that dictate when and how they use their digital tools. Instead of saying, “I use Facebook because it helps my social life,” they would offer something more specific: “I check Facebook each Saturday on my computer to see what my close friends and family are up to; I don’t have the app on my phone; I culled my list of friends down to just meaningful relationships.”

Here are some ways declutter participants meaningfully reintroduced tech: A digital advertiser named Ilona set up a regular schedule for calling and texting her friends. This supported her relationships by replacing lightweight check-ins with more intentional communications.

Abby, who works in the travel industry, removed the web browser from her phone. “I figured I didn’t need to know the answer to everything instantly,” she said. She also bought a paper notebook to jot down ideas when she’s bored on the train.

Caleb set a curfew for his phone; he can’t use it between 9 p.m. and 7 a.m. A computer engineer named Ron allows himself only two websites to check routinely — a big improvement over the 40 or so sites he used to cycle through.

Key points:

  • Your monthlong break from optional technologies resets your digital life. You can now rebuild it from scratch in a much more intentional and minimalist manner. To do so, apply a three-step technology filter to any tool you might reintroduce. The tool must . . .
    1. Serve something you deeply value. (Offering some benefit is not enough.)
    2. Be the best way to serve this value. (If not, choose something better.)
    3. Have a role in your life that is constrained by some standard operating procedure that specifies when and how you use it.
  • This process will help you cultivate a digital life in which optional technologies serve your deeply held values instead of subverting them. Careful reintroduction will help you make the intentional decisions that will define you as a digital minimalist.

This article is reprinted from Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World by Cal Newport with permission from Portfolio, an imprint of Penguin Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Random House LLC. Copyright © 2019 by Calvin C. Newport.

This article originally appeared as “The Great Digital Declutter” in the March 2023 issue of Experience Life.

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