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One of the main things that stand out for me when I think back about my marriage is how much I let my ex-husband and my former in-laws say and do whatever they wanted. I hated confrontation, and I wouldn’t say anything because I didn’t want to upset anyone or cause any tension to this new family I had. It wasn’t until I was going through my divorce that it really sunk in that I needed to defend myself. I struggled with this throughout my marriage, because I asked my ex-husband to defend me. I believed that it was his job to do, and I still believe that a husband is supposed to do this for his wife. But this wasn’t something he was able to for me. So, as I was faced with more Continue reading “Stand up for Yourself!”
Category: Life Tip Fridays
Keep Your Standards High
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Another tip that I’ve learned is that the things that I value and the traits that are important to me should be kept as just that – important to me. Whatever you value when you’re single should not be let go just because you’re in a new relationship. The person you are with should complement you and your standards, and you should be a complement to them as well. Don’t lower your values to satisfy the person you are with. What you value is important, and it’s part of what makes you who you are. Don’t think that your standards are set too high and that the only way to be with someone is by lowering them because, by doing that, you are changing a beautiful part of who you are in order to please someone Continue reading “Keep Your Standards High”
No Worries
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Growing up, I found it very easy to get caught up in what people were saying and what they thought about me. Kids naturally want to fit in and be accepted. But when I got older, I saw myself still doing the same thing….wanting to be accepted. Caring more about what other people thought of me than what I thought of myself. It wasn’t until I was going through my divorce that I learned about ME. That I got comfortable in my own skin and I realized – don’t worry about what other people think about you. The better thing to focus on is what do you think about yourself? People don’t have a heaven or a hell to put you in, and at the end of the day, you are always going home with you. So, like yourself. Better yet, Continue reading “No Worries”
Be Confident in Being Yourself
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Too often, we lose sight of who we are. We get wrapped up in taking care of our spouses or significant others…our children…. responsibilities at work, that we begin to morph into something someone else wants us to be. I have had people tell me that I was too skinny, spoke too proper, was too quiet….but was it true? Not to me. Those traits were and are apart of who I am, and as I grew up, I learned that I do not need to apologize for being who I am. I just need to embrace it. Just relax and be myself regardless of who likes it and who doesn’t. If someone doesn’t like who you are, that’s ok. If they don’t agree with what you believe, that’s ok. If they don’t like the way you look, that’s ok. You are the way you are because there is only ONE you, and no one else can ever do it better. Be confident in being yourself. There will never be another you, so relax. Be comfortable in being yourself. Don’t change yourself to make someone else happy. Bring your wonderful self out in everything you do, and YOU be happy being yourself.
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