Life Tip Fridays

Marriage, Divorce, and How I’m Doing

Hi guys! So, I wanted to shift gears a bit, and talk about how things have been going so far, and give you a little bit of background. Here we go…

My ex-husband and I met in 2005. We both volunteered at the church we went to, and became friends after meeting each other one night after a youth group service. I wasn’t interested in him initially because he’s just over a year younger than I am, and I didn’t want to be with a younger guy. Time went on, we went our separate ways and connected again in 2010. In December 2010, we hung out for a few days while he was home on leave from the army, and started chatting quite a bit. In January 2011, we began a long distance relationship, and in May 2011, we were married via proxy….yea…I know…I know… Not Continue reading “Marriage, Divorce, and How I’m Doing”

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Don’t Be Afraid to Fight

1462496316851[1]Have you ever done what someone else wanted just so you wouldn’t have to hear them lip about how you didn’t do it later on?  Is your hand raised?  Well, mine sure is.  One of the things I did while I was married, was go along with what my ex-husband wanted to do, even if I didn’t want to or didn’t agree with it.  Until one day, I realized that being a wife doesn’t mean I turn into a pushover.  You don’t lose your common sense and independence just because you’re married.  Sometimes, part of defending yourself means you’ll need to fight for the things that are important to you.  Now, don’t get me wrong, I didn’t disagree with everything my ex-husband wanted to do.  But if I had worked a long Continue reading “Don’t Be Afraid to Fight”

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Don’t Settle

1461801127521[1]Today, the process of divorce is over, and I’m nearly 2 weeks single.  Looking back on my marriage, I think about all the things I agreed to that fell short of what I wanted….way short.   I can’t help but think that maybe all of the things I settled for, even back to the days my ex-husband and I were dating, ended up being the very things that contributed to the end of my marriage.  Before we got married, whenever I learned something about my ex-husband that I didn’t like or didn’t want in a partner, I said, ‘well it’ll be OK…that could change later’.  DO…NOT…DO…THAT.  Please do not do what I did.  What I should have done was take him at face value.  In the words of the great Maya Continue reading “Don’t Settle”