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Hi guys! I wanted to leave a quick note for Life Tip Fridays today. No matter where you are in life today, it’s not too late to do better or to get what you’ve wanted. I never pictured myself as one day being a divorced, single mom, but I had to learn that this isn’t all I am. It doesn’t define who I am. And just because I’m single today doesn’t mean that I’ll be single always. That was a big pill for me to swallow, because for some reason, I’ve been thinking I missed my chance to one day have a healthy, happy marriage because I had a failed marriage, and the reality is….that’s just NOT true. Continue reading “It’s Not Too Late”
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Don’t Be Afraid to Fight
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Have you ever done what someone else wanted just so you wouldn’t have to hear them lip about how you didn’t do it later on? Is your hand raised? Well, mine sure is. One of the things I did while I was married, was go along with what my ex-husband wanted to do, even if I didn’t want to or didn’t agree with it. Until one day, I realized that being a wife doesn’t mean I turn into a pushover. You don’t lose your common sense and independence just because you’re married. Sometimes, part of defending yourself means you’ll need to fight for the things that are important to you. Now, don’t get me wrong, I didn’t disagree with everything my ex-husband wanted to do. But if I had worked a long Continue reading “Don’t Be Afraid to Fight”
Don’t Settle
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Today, the process of divorce is over, and I’m nearly 2 weeks single. Looking back on my marriage, I think about all the things I agreed to that fell short of what I wanted….way short. I can’t help but think that maybe all of the things I settled for, even back to the days my ex-husband and I were dating, ended up being the very things that contributed to the end of my marriage. Before we got married, whenever I learned something about my ex-husband that I didn’t like or didn’t want in a partner, I said, ‘well it’ll be OK…that could change later’. DO…NOT…DO…THAT. Please do not do what I did. What I should have done was take him at face value. In the words of the great Maya Continue reading “Don’t Settle”
Be Confident in Being Yourself
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Too often, we lose sight of who we are. We get wrapped up in taking care of our spouses or significant others…our children…. responsibilities at work, that we begin to morph into something someone else wants us to be. I have had people tell me that I was too skinny, spoke too proper, was too quiet….but was it true? Not to me. Those traits were and are apart of who I am, and as I grew up, I learned that I do not need to apologize for being who I am. I just need to embrace it. Just relax and be myself regardless of who likes it and who doesn’t. If someone doesn’t like who you are, that’s ok. If they don’t agree with what you believe, that’s ok. If they don’t like the way you look, that’s ok. You are the way you are because there is only ONE you, and no one else can ever do it better. Be confident in being yourself. There will never be another you, so relax. Be comfortable in being yourself. Don’t change yourself to make someone else happy. Bring your wonderful self out in everything you do, and YOU be happy being yourself.
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